I am Faisal Khokhar, a father of two little men and also an international speaker, coach and on a mission to help men evolve and enjoy their life. Because I am doing the same for myself.
I focus specifically on helping men to become more confident and charismatic, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. Again because I really sucked at it.
It’s easy to feel lost on ‘what it is to be a man’ and become stagnant, a people- pleaser as well as doubting ourselves. Man, I know this all too well.
I grew up as a computer geek in west London, in a council estate. My family didn’t have a lot of money, I remember as a kid that four of us lived in a one-bedroom flat for sometime.
Being a tech nerd was the perfect cover to hide many flaws. But it also fed one of the things I enjoyed most; problem-solving.
Years later I combined my love for computers and cars and ran my own internet business which later hit problems because I ran it as a hobby. At least I got to test drive cars for a living which was very cool.
Emotional intelligence wasn’t something I had or thought I needed as a computer professional. So navigating through life was, well, not a battle, but felt more like war! Actually, I didn’t even know what it was.
Mix this up with girls, relationships, marriage, divorce, kids, business and socialising and you can see how you have enough drama for a Netflix Original!
In the summer of 2013, I was hit with a rude awakening.
It left me devastated, I was hurting.
My marriage ended and my two young men moved out with their mum to live at the other side of the country. As a result of my emotional struggles my internet business also started to crumble, in fact, it had already started to crumble but I couldn’t yet see it.
At this point I caught sight of the real truth I was ignoring, the shadow; a part all humans fear to look into, the part they don’t like about themselves. I was no different. It was very confronting, shocking and painful.
I felt ashamed and disgusted by it.
I was now facing demons like insecurities, inferior complex, neediness, controlling issues, critical tongue, anger, frustration, resentment, guilt and shame. This is so hard to write.
But I didn’t realise I had these demons, it’s not like you can see the size of the wave when you are underwater.
I hit rock bottom head first.
After spending years in darkness, questioning life and existence I reached a point where I felt like I had come to the end of the road in terms of existing. Without my family life no longer had the depths of meaning.
Somehow, I couldn’t take the leap and take my own life which I wanted to as it was the only way I could see. Maybe I was a coward there too.
The struggle continued and eventually I had enough. It was time to turn around how I showed up as a MAN.
Then everything in my world changed.
As they say, you teach what you wish to learn the most.
Today my life has turned around, not only for me but also with men I work with.
Rising from rock bottom is no easy journey. It was a painful eye-opener for me, not what I was expecting. No quick wins here.
Once I was open to receiving the support I realised I wasn’t the only one, which was a sense of relief.
Now, I help men build a solid internal foundation and act from a place of self-worth. This permeates into genuine confidence and charisma, drives purpose, and forms meaningful connections that result in living a richer, more fulfilling life.
In other words, I kick their ass so they become powerful men, great men. Not perfect men. You don’t have to be perfect or fully healed in order to be confident, charismatic or engaging. Neither do you have to be perfect to love or be loved. You have just got to be committed to doing the work.
A man committed to bettering himself is super attractive. Don’t believe me, ask any woman. Unless she herself is plagued and blinded by her own insecurities, women will find your confidence and self-worth magnetic, endearing and refreshing.
Ready to step into Charismatic Confidence?