Everything About Relationships

I AM SPECIAL

It’s easy to believe that your relationship is different from everyone else’s. It’s probably not.

We all run unconscious patterns that are not always visible to us due to our blind spots.

Princeton psychologist Emily Pronin has found that “individuals see the existence and operation of cognitive and motivational biases much more in others than in themselves.”


DISNEY RELATIONSHIPS, IT’S MICKY MOUSE WORK

Disney relationship fantasies do not bring intimacy.

Instead, they distort perceptions about relationships and the other person, creating disillusionment, pain and emptiness.

You have fallen in love with the fantasy, not the person.

Some day my Prince will come.

Disney relationship fantasies do not bring intimacy.

Instead, they distort perceptions about relationships and the other person, creating disillusionment, pain and emptiness.

You have fallen in love with the fantasy, not the person.

Once you get addicted to this high, you seek for higher and higher doses.


PERFECT PARTNER WILL COME, JUST WATCH

Looking for the perfect partner is just another way of avoiding commitment. This way, you don’t have to commit to any relationship and deal with the challenges that comes with any relationships.


ABANDOHOLISM ADDICTION

Abandoholism is a tendency to become attracted to unavailable partners.

Abandoholism sets in when you’ve been hurt so many times that you’ve come to equate insecurity with love. Unless you’re pursuing someone you’re insecure about, you don’t feel in love.


WE FIGHT REJECTION

We fight rejection with rejection to safeguard our hurt.

Each time we feel rejected, the hurt, the pain, the embarrassment and the shame makes us shut down. Other times we react, lash out in anger and let our ego run riot. All to compensate for the burning feeling of inferiority. We either wrong the rejector or ourselves, internalising thoughts of “I am foolish and unworthy. I am not enough”.

Either way, we reject our higher self, reject our higher lessons and reject seeing our true potential based on someone else’s opinion. Most importantly, we reject the flow of love. We reject courage and embrace fear, hiding behind the veil of the lie that we’ve fabricated by the rejection: I am not good enough.

Tragically, we fail to see that rejection does not have to be a rejection of ourselves. Instead, it is greatest lesson telling us simply: ‘not now’. Never give up. Your moment of greatness is coming.


WHAT DO CARS, NAILS AND RELATIONSHIPS HAVE IN COMMON?

A lot, it turns out!

There is something I learnt about relationships that we all need to know. Understanding this and then acting appropriately will serve you and your partner more than anything you read in #Cosmo or #TopGear. ⠀

Fast attachment or moving too fast in a relationship is a warning sign. This indicates possibly unhealed wounds that need addressing such as codependency, anxious attachment style, lack of boundaries, love or relationship addiction, low self-confidence…⠀

There is an appropriate saying: ‘fools rush in’. The truth is, most of us have been that fool, over and over again. ⠀

To give you an example why this usually never ends well, let me put it in another way.⠀

Imagine you are driving too fast to take a corner or you try to put on a dress before your nails have dried. Both situations are going to result in a disaster, a smashed car and smudged nails.⠀

This is a red flag and like in motor racing, red flags are displayed when conditions are too dangerous to continue.⠀

Are you ignoring red flags?


HOLDING BACK THE TEARS

A man may avoid deep intimacy or connection as it’ll require him to move into emotions/feelings.

Masculine is logic driven, anything other than this is untrustworthy and won’t make logical sense.

The feminine is ever flowing, non-logic. You are happy one moment, sad the next, you say one thing and change your mind in the next moment, all of this builds distrust to the masculine.

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