There are certain distinguishing qualities that high-status men just ooze that makes them attractive to anyone who is around them. They have this halo effect which demonstrates his self-assurance and status.
Take Nelson Mandela who served 27 years in a 7-by-9-foot white washed walled cell, with paint chipping off the metal gate. This reflects the slums, not luxury.
But this man had power and influence, a leader many aspire to be. He would go down in many people’s eyes as a high-value man. What was it about him and men like him?
Men of high-status possess an irresistible gravitational pull so magnetic that in their company we are relentlessly drawn to them. When we are away from them, we can’t help the need to be back in their orbit.
Among their many admirable charismatic qualities is how they perceive others; especially other more successful, powerful and influential men.
It’s natural for many of us to look at these men and women credulously. The puppy eye look may seem cute to some, however, it also emanates neediness and over-eagerness to please others. This is because there are some dilapidating beliefs like I’m not good enough and worth running.
Also, the destructive habit of comparing oneself to them takes over the ruminating mind and perpetuates the belief that they are above me and I will never achieve what they can.
Men and women of high-value have mastery over the ability to look for solutions and opportunities instead of being problem focused.
They focus on the bigger picture rather than what so-and-so was up to last night with so-and-so
. They seek to understand the world around them and they’re eager to understand themselves better. They look into people and they seek clarity in situations to generate new insights.
“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbor says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself.”―Marcus Aurelius
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